By Autism Media“MY SON MAKES ME SPECIAL IN EVERY WAY”- SAYS PRIYA
A son is always a mother’s great strength. He is her hope, pride, best friend and life. We bring to you an inspiring story of a mother who decided to be her son’s greatest strength. In a world full of superheroes, Priya is Krithik’s wonder woman. Mothering a child with special needs, doesn’t make her step out from the game of life. Instead, makes her stronger than before.
“My son loves playing so much and I do enjoy the happy hours that we spend together. We work on various skills and outdoor activities every day, and are on a mission to bring out his best talents” began Priya with a pretty smile.
Once, I fell down badly while teaching him one of the activities, and there he came running to save me up. My little one was struggling hard, to take care of his Mommy and he hugged me tight and laid on my side till I recovered. His pure love and affection, makes me feel special and at times emotional. These are the precious moments, I would cherish for a life time. He makes me realize that I am his supermom and gives an extra boost of energy to stay positive. Krithik’s mommy is a software engineer by profession, and a doer and believer at heart. People say parenting is hard. Imagine the stress and challenges faced by a mother, who has to raise her son with special needs. Priya opines that if you believe in your child’s capabilities, happiness will bloom around. Can’t believe? Listen to this momma bear’s heart melting story.
A LIFE BUILT ON TRUST
Strangers know nothing about her son and this Mommy envisions to do lot more for his life and achievements. “My son’s teachers and coaches lacked faith in him and his potentials, and I had to constantly fight with them to make them realize his worth. School hunting was a nerve ending task, but we are lucky to find Akshadhaa after a long battle of struggles. The advisers and public have no idea about our life and what we are dealing with. My entire life is flooded with explanations and I am looking forward to get over this dilemma. I believe, there are both good and immature people who don’t know about the perils of ASD. That sudden uneasy and curious looks they bestow on me when my boy puts a tantrum, is suffocating” reveals Priya.
THE JOURNEY OF A SELF MADE MOTHER
Being a mother, nobody taught me how to engage a child with ASD and I just followed my motherly instincts. I tried to understand his needs and manage accordingly. Sometimes my family members don’t know how to “deal” with him, and I believe, he has Mommy with him, to make him the happiest. My vision of motherhood is to do everything possible to bring out his true potentials and to make himself self-dependent. I want him to make a difference in the world rather than just leading an independent life.
PRIYA’S MESSAGE
Dear mommies, there would be so many others to give suggestions in your life. They would say your child will not walk, talk, he cannot swim…and the list is endless. I have had enough of that and his former teachers and coaches repeated the same. But the best part is, my son can now cycle on his own, swim, skate and even talk. He uttered his first word at 6 years and it was a moment of exhilarating joy for me. Merriness was in the air and tears were gushing down my cheeks. The one thing that you have to do for your child, is to find the right place, the right tool and methodology to teach them. Reinventing of yourself, may be tough, but trust me no award or appreciation can match the feeling when you see your child master an art.
DETERMINATION v/s STRUGGLE
“Life gave me enough disappointments and heartbreaks. But the one thing, I kept searching for everyday was happiness. I found happiness in Krithik’s little joys and warm hugs. Life is never a villain, because it gifted me a hero for a lifetime to love, my son” smiles Priya. Believe in your child and nobody else will ever do that for you. Your baby will revolt initially and the people around you will revolt more. They would also question you on taking an inconvenient path, but it is really fine. Shut yourself from the noise and keep trusting that good times are on the way. Progress will pay back all your hard times if you are ready to stay optimistic. The best part of the whole journey is the sense of achievement that will gleam on your child’s face. And it will be the most treasured reward ever! We had a multitude of challenges to tackle down initially. My son’s sensory issues and inability to communicate his wants resulted in unsocial behaviors. The care takers were burdened with his odd actions and I had many other sources to fuel our misfortunates and drag us to the edge. We just go for a long drive when things are falling apart and it helps us to regain our warmth and love. It also motivates me to think better and love him more affectionately.
EMBRACE THE FLAWS!
As a mother, Krithik’s sleepless nights terribly affected Priya as a whole. But she discovered new strategies to get him to bed and enjoy a comfortable night. “I am always trying to push his limits constantly. There are some things that I readily know what my son likes and I do inspire him to learn the unknown. It is important that he is treated with a mix of both and the sense of achievement my baby feels after doing a tough task, makes him truly delighted. Moreover these kids have limitless energy and they need to be exhausted through efficient methods” says Priya. Realities may be hard. But you can make it simple, by believing that life is a beautiful thing, to hold on like her. Be an inspiration to the rest and help these butterflies fly high. Being vulnerable and having special needs are all fine. Let’s heal together and grow better. Remember! Nobody is flawless. Flaws makes you real, human and loving.
